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Lesson No. 39: Be Grateful for Mondays

Happy Thanksgiving to all of my fellow Canadians! I hope you’re lucky enough to be enjoying a restful day off. If you are, it’s certainly something to be grateful for! Otherwise, it’s just Monday. And I’ve noticed that Mondays tend to get people down.

So I’ve got a question for you who loath the sound of the Monday morning alarm: Why do you dread Mondays, my darling?

You must not be happy with how you spend your weekdays. Perhaps you don’t like your job. Maybe you don’t get along with your coworkers. Possibly, you’re bored—stuck in the old mundane and repetitive rut. Or you might be tired—your life is hard work and you’re struggling to keep up.

I get it. These are all very real things.

I don’t deny that I feel at least some of these things at least some of the time. I do. But they don’t make me dread Mondays. Sometimes they are they very things that make me excited to get back to the grind.

Because I am driven to improve!

Improve my life, my work, my relationships, my self. I’m never satisfied. I’m always grateful—always! But I always want to do better as well. I want to keep growing and learning and making my life (and the lives around me) even more amazing.

And it’s this innate drive I have within me that I am probably most grateful for. It’s allowed me to see endless possibilities. Problems don’t scare me because I’m a solution-hunter. And wonderful points in my life don’t make me stagnant because I’m always aware of where there is room for improvement.

Lesson No. 39: Be Grateful for Mondays. They are what keep us moving, growing, getting better all the time. A weekly built-in challenge to outdo ourselves.

At least that’s the way I look at it.

Life is all a matter of perspective. I hope you find one that works for you, babe, so that on Sunday nights you can fall peacefully asleep thinking to yourself: bring it on, Monday!

with truth and elegance,
Vanessa

PS–To witness my journey on a daily basis (pictures included!), be sure to follow me on Instagram @Vanessa_Bork

Lesson No. 38: Do Not Fear The Darkness

Well, that’s one month of grad school in the bag! It went by in the blink of an eye!

It’s been overwhelming, to say the least. So much information to take in! New schedules, new settings, new people, new expectations, new everything. It’s almost been like I’ve been living someone else’s life—except I’m seriously out of the loop.

Since this was the start of a whole new program, we were all flooded with information that was to cover the next two to five years. And beyond.

That’s a lot to try and keep straight!

Trust me, I know because I tried. I tried to sift through all the schedules and requirements, and find a way to makes sense of all the things that weren’t even relevant yet. But I couldn’t do it.

I have no idea what I’ll be doing on March 7, 2018!

I can’t even picture that yet. I can barely picture what next weekend will look like, let alone my graduation day or my subsequent career. It’s all still too hazy and hypothetical at this point. I can’t yet see that light at the end of the proverbial tunnel that everyone’s always talking about.

But I was overreaching. Expecting too much too soon.

Because here’s the thing about that old light at the end of the tunnel: it doesn’t actually become visible until you’re almost there.

And until then you have to just move forward in the darkness, trusting that you’ll eventually find your way to the light. Which is why baby steps are so helpful—because you can’t see very far in the dark. So you’ll get lost if you try to look too far ahead.

If you keep your steps small you won’t stumble so much in the dark. Of course, you will stumble sometimes because it’s dark after all. But it’ll be more manageable.

And If you keep going that way, you’ll eventually see the light off in the distance. But you have to keep going—that’s the only secret. Some people are afraid of spending that much time in the dark. They can’t handle the ambiguity. So they quit early on. Or they stick it out a while until they assume that enough time has passed that they should be able to see the light by now. And since they still can’t, they prematurely come to the conclusion that they’ve failed—and then they give up.

Lesson No. 38: Do Not Fear The Darkness. If you ever want to make it to the other end of any of life’s tunnels, you’re going to have to spend a lot of time in the dark. The people who appear to be completely confident in what they’re doing, cannot actually see the light any better than you. They’ve just become comfortable with uncertainty.

You can do this too, darling. Patience, perseverance, and trust. And you’ll find the light at the end of your own tunnel before you know it!

with truth and elegance,
Vanessa

PS–To witness my journey on a daily basis (pictures included!), be sure to follow me on Instagram @Vanessa_Bork

Lesson No. 37: True Beauty is the Colour Grey

Tom Waits once said, “I like beautiful melodies telling me terrible things.” And I couldn’t agree more with this sentiment!

Because it just can’t be truly beautiful unless it’s at least touched by a hint of ugliness.

Just a whisper of pain or struggle or imperfection.

Anything that is pure beauty is too easy—it’s not real.

Things that appear perfect are not beautiful at all. They are superficial. Incomplete. They have no true meaning.

The hard things, the complicated things, the hurtful things—these are the beautiful things. They have deep value.

Because they hold profound potential. Potential for insight and for growth. Those who have struggled have often found answers. Answers that people who have not struggled will never know anything about.

The terrible things are what foster real beauty.

Life is comprised of dualities. Good and bad. Light and darkness. Beauty and ugliness. And none of these things are truly black and white. They exist on a scale of grey.

Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful grey.

Lesson No. 37: True Beauty is the Colour Grey.

Where the awful meets the wonderful we find beauty.

And it’s called honesty.

with truth and elegance,
Vanessa

PS–To witness my journey on a daily basis (pictures included!), be sure to follow me on Instagram @Vanessa_Bork